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what do i do.

right off the bat, gonna say, i'm sorry if you're expecting a baseball blog. this isn't it. not today, today i need to get some things off my chest and this is the only place i have to do it and feel safe and hopefully get some feedback.

it's about a girl, then again, when is it not. so again, if you don't want to hear about my emotional problems. one more chance to leave.

in honour of twiiter, i will refer to her as oomf. any one, i dated oomf for 6 months ( ya not a long time) and she recently told me that because of where her career is taking her ( she's an orchestral Oboist) she didn't feel it would be fair to me or her to continue dating, as she didn't want to hurt me by traveling or spending so long practicing. Needless to say ( god i hate when ppl say that, oh well) i was, and still am, somewhat heartbroken over this. I realize that its selfish of me to say that i don't want her to go, to succeed and be happy. i don't want to ruin her dreams. but at the same time, i so badly want to tell her that i still love her and would do anything to stay with her. ya, i'd probably stop playing baseball for her. if thats what it took. we still talk some, and we're trying to stay friends, but she told me today that after this year of school she's going to toronto (which is a 27 hour drive, or a 2 hour plane trip) to pursue another style of music. this is what brought upon this rant/ confession or whatever you may call it.

I'm so confused and stressed over this. i don't want to say anything to hurt our friendship, or possibly affect her music career, but i also need to get what i'm saying to all of you into some form that i can tell her.

if you have read this all, thank you, i wouldn't really expect it from you, but if you have any insight, some fresh eyes/ ideas would be much appreciated.

Lets be friends

Nich

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Comment by Nicholas Lovatt on June 22, 2012 at 11:17pm: thanks ya'll. i appreciate your honesty and great insight. i just really was too deep into the situation to see straight, and having more eyes on it was just what i needed.

Comment by Tyler Dunk on June 22, 2012 at 12:28pm: If you meant as much to her as it seems that she does to you, she'll realize it and she'll come back. It's just going to take time. Stay strong, be a great friend, and do whatever it takes to make her happy

Comment by Tina Ciacciarelli on June 21, 2012 at 12:25am: That's a really tough situation. In all honesty, I would stay friends. Being more then friends being that so far away would make you miserable. If you are willing to give up baseball for a girl you dated for only 6 months, I think that's crazy too. If you love the sport so much, continue with it, you will find someone around just like your girl or even better. Don't take a chance in ruining her career or especially your friendship. If you go chase her, and sonethinggg happens between you two, where will you fall back to? Because at that point you already stopped baseball, its not like you can hop right back into it. It's better to have her in your life in general, then to not have her at allll. Sorrry if I sounded a little harsh Haha

Comment by Cody Brumm on June 20, 2012 at 10:31pm: Yeah I agree with Amily and Taylor. You just gotta try to stay close to her because 6 months is a long time and if you think it's worth it, you just have to follow your heart. Support her in anything she decides and if the time comes and God presents you two to date again then it would all work out. You never know what will happen unless you keep doing the right thing.